This game is a hulk smash game. If you are the hulk, you smash everything. This game isn't helpful for new comers because many of the jerk players that created high level toons used them to create toons at lower levels in pvp zones. My suggestion about BG's is to enter get your quest done and wait it out and wait till you have another quest in there. Farm DG's for items. Jewels, BP, and narak drop in BC. Join a guild, but stay active. Far too often players join the game, get help, and then abandon the game and it pisses off the players who helped them because they could have saved their gold and used their time for their own purposes rather than helping players who just leave. Players who want to invest their time into the game play some and get used to your character, create multiple characters to figure out which you like most. Just don't enter the next zone thinking it is going to be better than the one you are just in, especially if you are under geared. You have players who speed through leveling into +50 without the gear. Sure you get free zeta weapon, knee guard, shoes, and gloves, but to come without suit, bangle, and helmet is really going to just keep you where you were when you started with BG's, getting your but smacked. But work on getting gear and enhancing them after having more than a year for players to make +12 kappa sets you have idiots who level into the 60+ arena with +8 gear, really it's that pathetic to think I am lvl 60+ I can spank some players, trust me, the only way you spank anybody is with the help of a guard or other players and you can end up being a liability of a 1 or 2 shot death. Not to mention if you enter level 60+ unprepared you aren't going to get anywhere as you don't even have the gear to farm for making better gear. So, just work through the game and stay active so that players can see you are wanting to stick around that may help you. But don't believe that players who worked to create the best toons are going to just let you have what you want.
I played with a girl who thought that I should just let her have her way to get certain items that I was going for and wanted, she threw a fit that I wasn't letting her and quit. Do I feel bad? Not how she whined about it and complained that she wasn't allowed to have it even though I've been working on my characters and they still need work to get them what they need. So, just because they are better than you, they might not be finished building their toon or improving their toon. We also improve our toons so that we can increase our ability to get what we want, not so that we maintain the same so others over power us, not by gear or even skill for that matter in many cases, but by luck and the character you have.
Characters on a level playing field will still have the advantage over other characters, just because that's the nature of their character. So, even trying to balance out things, you will still end up unbalanced.